looking for love in a coffee shop

I’ve always romanticized the idea of meeting someone, and falling in love at a coffee shop. Ideally Tim Hortons wouldn’t be my first option, but living in Toronto I may have to settle.

So this is exactly how the rest of my life would begin…

I’d walk in with a new hijab on (my colours are usually dark blues, or reds), I’d order and take a seat closest to the window. The love of my life, the father of my children (not to be so futuristic) would walk in, notice me, and then of course lower his gaze.

As I pretend to be texting, no wait reading a book he finishes up and takes the seat directly behind me. As a side note, i must mention that I appreciate assertiveness in males and an appropriate approach. So i give him another 10 mins (little does he know I’m checking the time, and must be off soon) and lo and behold he makes his way to my table. Keeping a distance, and not intruding by taking a seat, he apologizes for interrupting me and asks if there is any way he could have my contact information. Of course I give it to him (6ft brother with a beard, i couldn’t say no), my email that is and not even out the door and i receive his email.

Fast forward to today, and email after email here we are today.. in love..

i wish.

This hasn’t happened yet, still hopeful to say the least.

my sister

It’s tough to see so many young, intelligent, beautiful womyn fall victim to the males around them. Failing to understand that they are beautiful, and intelligent despite praise they may or may not receive.

I am writing this to any womyn that has felt unworthy at the hands of any male in her life, at the hands of her own insecurities and at the hands of her inability to love herself. I write this to share with you, and to remind you of how special you are. How loved, and respected you are. I want you to understand something; I want you to understand that you are not alone and we have all been there. I want you to understand that we are far more powerful in numbers; fighting together in order to protect ourselves and our sister(s) from feelings of doubt, shame, and worthlessness.

I, as a womyn am capable of so much…

I want you to remind yourself of who you are, and what kind of person you are striving to be. And with that image, ask yourself whether you are building and striving towards that or regressing from it. As human beings we strive to produce images, and associate them with meanings. So take that image of who you are, and what kind of person you are striving to be and run with it, make associations and bring that meaning back into your life.

I, as a womyn am capable of succeeding without the assistance and affirmation of any male…

This idea of only succeeding, or finding success through marriage is neither realistic nor healthy. I want all the young womyn to understand that they’re more then capable of succeeding without male interference. And I want them to understand, that its okay to get married young. But it’s also okay to have a career you are passionate about, as well as working towards improving oneself not only for oneself but the betterment of the relationship as well.

I would like to remind you of how precious, and worthy you are. How gentle, and softhearted you are. And most importantly how appreciated you are. So please, never forget your worth and never allow yourself to be reduced by negative commentary upheld by males.

You are beautiful.